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Welcome to Narcissista.me

My name is Becca, this is my side hustle where I try to decode medical beauty and the playbook for looking great north of 35 because I’m too old to legitimately play with Barbies.

I never thought vanity was a dirty word and call bullsh*t on those who imply it’s wrong for women to care about what they look like.  Trying to look your best means you’re showing up for life.  The problem is, with all the beauty and the anti-aging solutions out there, we have too many options, not enough information and some pretty f**ked up ideals about what it means to look great.

The irony is, I’ve learned looking your best is an inside job that starts with self acceptance, perspective and a sense of humor. But because beauty is all about context, you’ll also find commentary on culture, conventional beauty standards and the state of femininity.  And there’s never been a more exciting time to talk about beauty and women with new standards being set and redefined by diversity of age, size and ethnicity.

As for me, I’m a north of 40 formerly and M.A.U.D. (middle aged until death) beauty veteran who’s worn every hat under the girly rainbow. Some highlights:

  • On a good day, I’m 5′ 2″ brunette and have never seen either as a shortcoming.  Same with my freckles.
  • Weight, however is my beauty Kryptonite.  My BMI is perfect and few would describe me as overweight, but I know I look best 10lbs thinner than I am now.
  • I was a competitive baton twirler, even though I didn’t have Miss America aspirations or grow up in the South.  I don’t think baton twirling gets the respect it deserves, especially in a world where rhythmic gymnastics is an Olympic sport.  This hardwired my love of sequins and tiaras.
  • When I was 16, I worked behind the Lancome counter at Bloomingdales in the King of Prussia mall.   I become the defacto, self taught make-up artist, which meant if you sat in my chair you were guaranteed to look like you stepped out of Duran Duran’s “Rio” video.  But to this day, that job remains one of my favorites because even the smallest transformation contributed to women feeling better about themselves.
  • I’ve always been a boobs and hair girl until I got breast cancer a few tears years ago.  Then, for about a year I was neither.  Now, I’m back to being a hair and boobs girl, just a little more bionic.

I write this under the dark cover of night, but during the day I pay the bills as the Managing Director of a brand consultancy (hence the dark sunglasses) and am the mother of a teenage boy.  Guilty pleasures include GoT, OTNB, John Oliver, guacamole, procrastinating, leopard and other thinking life in general.

All content in this blog is copyright Narcissista.me 2016. *The content in this blog does not reflect the opinions of my employer or any of the brands I touch in my day job to avoid any conflict of interest.   

41 Comments

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    Daniela
    July 4, 2012 at 3:24 AM

    Hi, I just pop over to say BIG thanks for visiting my blog! Much appreciate it. And I like what I found on your blog too – ‘anti- aging beauty and fun’ bring it on!

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    narcissista1
    July 5, 2012 at 8:22 PM

    Thanks Daniela!

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    leblogdemarie
    July 8, 2012 at 4:50 PM

    Thanks so much for the like and follow! So glad to have found your site. Love your point of view and especially your sense of humor! Looking forward to following!

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      narcissista1
      July 10, 2012 at 10:07 PM

      Thanks leblogdemarie! Right back at you.

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    Daniela
    July 30, 2012 at 5:51 AM

    Hi,
    This is just to let you know that I have nominated you for the beautiful blogger award. If you chose to participate, (I understand completely if you do not wish to), please pick the award and rules from here: http://wp.me/p2v1s2-ph
    Best of Luck!
    Daniela

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    Sami K
    August 4, 2012 at 7:43 PM

    I love your comment about baton twirling. I started twirling back in January ( I know… forever and a day ago, right?!) and I will be moving to the more serious competition team this coming October. You’re absolutely right- and to kind of tack on to that, don’t you think that baton twirling should be an olympic sport?! People are calling me crazy when I say that… and hopefully a fellow twirler could help me stand my point 🙂 Happy Saturday!!

    ~Sami K

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      narcissista1
      August 7, 2012 at 2:01 PM

      Thanks Sami, I totally agree with you that baton twirling should be an Olympic sport! I don’t think it gets the respect it deserves at all. It is much harder than rhythmic gymnastics after all:) Best of luck to you on your baton twirling. I loved every minute of it.

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    Lisa Williams Today
    September 19, 2012 at 11:20 AM

    Thank you Narcissista! for including my blog posts to yours. I can see you share my sense of humour, I look forward to seeing more posts from you. TC ~ LW

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      narcissista1
      September 19, 2012 at 1:03 PM

      Likewise Lisa, I was happy to find a kindred spirit.

      -Becca

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    fairytalesandcoffee
    October 2, 2012 at 9:14 AM

    Humor and snark – I dig. The last humorous and snarky beauty blogger I enjoyed stepped away from the blogging world shortly after I started following her. I was sad. Glad you helped me find this blog. If you step away from blogging too, then I will know I am not meant to read humorous and snarky beauty blogs as atonement – who knows for what.

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      narcissista1
      October 5, 2012 at 7:42 AM

      Well, I hope to be here for a while so don’t give up hope on the humor meets beauty thang. Beauty and fashion can takes itself way to seriously, and frankly I need to laugh more than not these days. Looking forward to reading more from you too!

      Becca

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    sweet4ellie
    October 2, 2012 at 11:38 AM

    Hey! Thanks for the like and follow – really appreciate it! Look forward to reading your future posts as well as catching up on what I have already missed!
    E x

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      narcissista1
      October 2, 2012 at 10:45 PM

      Thanks and welcome! Looking forward to reading more from you as well.

      Becca

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    lilly29
    October 4, 2012 at 11:45 PM

    Hi Narcissista!! Thanks so much for visiting my blog.
    Lilly

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      narcissista1
      October 5, 2012 at 7:43 AM

      Welcome Lilly, I hope you enjoy what you find here, and I look forward to reading more from you too.

      Becca

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      narcissista1
      October 6, 2012 at 11:28 PM

      My pleasure and look forward to reading more from you.

      Becca

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    Anonymous
    October 5, 2012 at 7:21 AM

    Hello! Thanks for the follow – really appreciate it! Look forward to reading your future posts.

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    narcissista1
    October 5, 2012 at 7:40 AM

    Thanks, and welcome to narcissista.me Anonymous
    Becca

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    jgregoli
    October 5, 2012 at 7:48 AM

    Hello! Thanks for the follow, really appreciate it! Looking forward to reading your posts:)

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    jeanjames26
    October 5, 2012 at 10:49 AM

    Just found your blog, and am so happy I did. Having come from a family with more boys than girls, being a girly girl growing up had its challenges. I love a one stop 411 on the 911 of aging and sagging skin, especially coming from someone with bionic boobs! And who ever said you’re too old to play with Barbie (just call it research).

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      narcissista1
      October 7, 2012 at 8:20 AM

      Happy to find another Barbie soul mate:)

      Becca

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    bmybest
    October 5, 2012 at 12:19 PM

    Hi! Stopping by to say thank you for checking out my blog. After spending a few minutes here, I believe I am experiencing a bit of a blog crush. I agree Leopard is a neutral and of course I agree that trying to look our best is simply showing up for life. Look forward to following you!

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    lailaduran
    October 8, 2012 at 12:07 PM

    Thanks for following my blog! Especially because now I know about yours! I love the way your write about all of the stuff I want to know about.

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      narcissista1
      October 8, 2012 at 10:07 PM

      Thanks for stopping by Laila and following here as well. I’ve been enjoying your blog for a while now and love the background actor cum writer mashup. I look forward to hearing more!

      Becca

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    vonlet24
    October 29, 2012 at 1:46 PM

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! Love what you have going on here – gave me a big smile 🙂

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    thebestdressup
    October 31, 2012 at 3:17 PM

    ciao! luvFAB blog.
    thebestdressup

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    adornemus
    November 2, 2012 at 5:52 PM

    Hi! Thanks for visiting my blog. It made my day, really 🙂 I’m still going through yours and loving it. Hope you and your family are all ok in NY. Stay safe 🙂

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      narcissista1
      November 2, 2012 at 7:54 PM

      Thanks – I loved your post on the Rodarte/Starbucks collaboration. A sure sign of the Apocalypse:)

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        adornemus
        November 3, 2012 at 5:39 AM

        Thanks 🙂 I’m obsessed with designer collaborations.
        I’m glad to hear that you and your family are ok. Have a lovely weekend.

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      narcissista1
      November 2, 2012 at 10:54 PM

      Thanks for the concern. We’re OK as we’re on the flood free and electricity pumped upper west side, but the rest of NYC, Brooklyn and Queens….it’s a mess. We are very lucky nad grateful.

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    Mrs H
    November 4, 2012 at 4:38 PM

    Thanks for the visit / follow. I love the idea of leopard as neutral!!

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    loveleighbeauty
    November 15, 2012 at 12:32 AM

    You are absolutely hilarious! I love your wittiness and appreciate your ability to write the honest truth with such charm. Looking forward to reading more. xo

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      narcissista1
      November 15, 2012 at 8:50 PM

      Thank you so much and right back at you;)

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    November 19, 2012 at 11:09 AM

    http://bohoheart.com/2012/11/19/1046/ Nominated you for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award

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      narcissista1
      November 20, 2012 at 6:45 AM

      Thank you so much, you’ve made my day!

      Becca

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    sweet4ellie
    December 3, 2012 at 2:29 PM

    Hey Becca, Just wanted to pop over to say I nominated you for the Liebster Award! Check out my blog for more details! Congratulations! x

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      narcissista1
      December 3, 2012 at 3:03 PM

      Thank you so much I’ll be sure to pop over!

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